Watching TV is companionable: you share an experience, you can comment on the action here and there for a bit of conversation... it's a way of showing someone that you want his or her company and engaging in a low-key, pleasant, undemanding way. Gretchen Rubin actionbitecomment share on social
It's easier to get rid of things when you're giving them to someone who can use them, but don't let this kind intention become a source of clutter itself. I have a friend who has multiple piles all over her house, each lovingly destined for a particular recipient. Gretchen Rubin clutterdestineeasy share on social
I'd always vaguely expected to outgrow my limitations. One day, I'd stop twisting my hair, and wearing running shoes all the time, and eating exactly the same food every day. I'd remember my friends' birthdays, I'd learn Photoshop, I wouldn't let my daughter watch TV during breakfast. I'd read Shakespeare. Gretchen Rubin birthdaybreakfastdaughter share on social
I get such a buzz out of cleaning closets. Gretchen Rubin buzzcleancloset Change image and share on social
In 'Happier at Home,' I write a lot about my struggle to create an unhurried atmosphere at home. Gretchen Rubin atmospherecreatehappy Change image and share on social
One of my 'Secrets of Adulthood' is: Somewhere, keep an empty shelf. I know where my empty shelf is, and I treasure it. Gretchen Rubin adulthoodemptysecret Change image and share on social
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Lower the bar. Actually spending ten minutes clearing off one shelf is better than fantasizing about spending a weekend cleaning out the basement. Gretchen Rubin barbasementclean Change image and share on social
Take care of difficult calls or emails as quickly as possible. Procrastinating just makes it harder; getting them done gives a big boost of relieved energy. Gretchen Rubin bigboostcall Change image and share on social
It's hard to avoid 'unconscious overclaiming.' In unconscious overclaiming, we unconsciously overestimate our contributions relative to others. This makes sense, because we're far more aware of what we do than what other people do. Also, we tend to do the work that we value. Gretchen Rubin avoidawarecontribution share on social
I embrace treats, but I'm also very wary of treats. Treats help us feel energized, appreciated, and enthusiastic - but very often, the things we choose as 'treats' aren't good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day. Gretchen Rubin appreciatechooseconsequence share on social