In 'Before and After,' I identify the sixteen strategies that we can use to make or break our habits. Some are quite familiar, such as 'Monitoring,' 'Scheduling,' and 'Convenience.' Some took me a lot of effort to identify, such as 'Thinking,' 'Identity,' and 'Clarity.' Gretchen Rubin breakclarityconvenience share on social
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Lower the bar. Actually spending ten minutes clearing off one shelf is better than fantasizing about spending a weekend cleaning out the basement. Gretchen Rubin barbasementclean Change image and share on social
An enormous amount of ingenuity and creativity goes into commercials, and they can be fascinating if you pay attention. Gretchen Rubin amountattentioncommercial Change image and share on social
I really work on paying attention to the clues my self is giving myself. For instance, I think of myself in the third person. That allows me to manage myself better. Gretchen Rubin attentioncluegive Change image and share on social
For one person, organized files might be a crucial tool for creativity; another person finds inspiration in random juxtapositions. Gretchen Rubin creativitycrucialfile Change image and share on social
Do I need fifty finger-painted pictures by my toddler, or is one enough to capture this time of life? Mementos work best when they're carefully chosen - and when they don't take up much room! Gretchen Rubin capturecarefullychoose Change image and share on social
I embrace treats, but I'm also very wary of treats. Treats help us feel energized, appreciated, and enthusiastic - but very often, the things we choose as 'treats' aren't good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day. Gretchen Rubin appreciatechooseconsequence share on social
When you're doing a job that benefits other people, it's easy to assume that they feel conscious of the fact that you're doing this work - that they should feel grateful, and that they should and do feel guilty about not helping you. Gretchen Rubin assumebenefitconscious share on social
If you'd like to watch less television, try putting the remote away in a very inconvenient place and making yourself put it away every time you use it. If it's a big pain to turn on the TV and to change channels, you might find yourself drifting to other activities that will be more satisfying in the long run. Gretchen Rubin activitybigchange share on social
I've found that I snack less and concentrate better when I chew on a plastic stirrer - the kind that you get to stir your to-go coffee. I picked up this habit from my husband, who loves to chew on things. His favorite chew-toy is a plastic pen top, and gnawed pen tops and little bits of plastic litter our apartment. Gretchen Rubin apartmentbitchew share on social