I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty. Dan Savage advicecrueltyfriend Change image and share on social
Really, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over. Dan Savage culturegaypolitical Change image and share on social
Sometimes I talk to religious people about my column or what I do, and I ask them to, you know, read 20 or 30 of them and then come tell me that the message at the heart of every column isn't, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' In every possible sense. Dan Savage columnheartmessage share on social
Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage. Dan Savage absencechildcompulsory share on social
Christmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials. Dan Savage aspectchristmascohesion share on social
To be a straight person and discover you're infertile is almost like discovering you're not a straight person. Dan Savage discoverinfertileperson Change image and share on social
A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves. Dan Savage animatecapacityfear Change image and share on social
A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied. Dan Savage boybullyeffeminate Change image and share on social