A mother, after all, is your entry into the world. She is the shell in which you divide and become a life. Waking up in a world without her is like waking up in a world without sky: unimaginable. Meghan O'Rourke divideentrylife Change image and share on social
Loss doesn't feel redeemable. But for me one consoling aspect is the recognition that, in this at least, none of us is different from anyone else: We all lose loved ones; we all face our own death. Meghan O'Rourke aspectconsoledeath Change image and share on social
Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona. Meghan O'Rourke disruptionexperiencefully Change image and share on social
It's all too easy when talking about female gymnasts to fall into the trap of infantilizing them, spending more time worrying more about female vulnerability than we do celebrating female strength. Meghan O'Rourke celebrateeasyfall Change image and share on social
But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone. Meghan O'Rourke bereavediscomfortend Change image and share on social
Grief is a bad moon, a sleeper wave. It's like having an inner combatant, a saboteur who, at the slightest change in the sunlight, or at the first notes of a jingle for a dog food commercial, will flick the memory switch, bringing tears to your eyes. Meghan O'Rourke badbringchange share on social
Television has never known what to do with grief, which resists narrative: the dramas of grief are largely internal - for the bereaved, it is a chaotic, intense, episodic period, but the chaos is by and large subterranean, and easily appears static to the friendly onlooker who has absorbed the fact of loss and moved on. Meghan O'Rourke absorbappearbereave share on social
I wasn't prepared for the fact that grief is so unpredictable. It wasn't just sadness, and it wasn't linear. Somehow I'd thought that the first days would be the worst and then it would get steadily better - like getting over the flu. That's not how it was. Meghan O'Rourke baddayfact share on social
Loss is so paradoxical: It is at once enormous and tiny. Meghan O'Rourke enormouslossparadoxical Change image and share on social
I envy my Jewish friends the ritual of saying kaddish - a ritual that seems perfectly conceived, with its built-in support group and its ceremonious designation of time each day devoted to remembering the lost person. Meghan O'Rourke buildceremoniousconceive share on social