I suggest Substituting Inedible Nurturance, or SIN. Don't replace overeating with virtuous work or exercise; instead, make a list of things you love, from watching TV to hanging out with favorite people. Martha Beck exercisefavoritehang share on social
What happens when we're willing to feel bad is that, sure enough, we often feel bad - but without the stress of futile avoidance. Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests, and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes parts of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined. Martha Beck acceptavoidancebad share on social
I was learning to track rhinoceroses in Africa and tracked right up on an animal that really I thought was going to kill me. Martha Beck africaanimalkill Change image and share on social
The pretty girls get all the good stuff. Oh, God. So not true. I unlearned this after years of coaching beautiful clients. Yes, these lovelies get preferential treatment in most life scenarios, but there's a catch: While everyone's looking at them, virtually no one sees them. Martha Beck beautifulcatchclient share on social
Realizing that we've surrendered our self-esteem to others and choosing to be accountable for our own self-worth would mean absorbing the terrifying fact that we're always vulnerable to pain and loss. Martha Beck absorbaccountablechoose Change image and share on social
Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure. Martha Beck badlybuilddegree share on social
For the vast majority of world history, human life - both culture and biology - was shaped by scarcity. Food, clothing, shelter, tools, and pretty much everything else had to be farmed or fabricated, at a very high cost in time and energy. Martha Beck biologyclthecost share on social
Denial exists because human infants, though equipped with trust-o-meters, are built to trust, blindly and absolutely, any older person who wanders past. Martha Beck absolutelyblindlybuild Change image and share on social
To know what that true self is without social pressure is to know your true nature. Martha Beck naturepressuresocial Change image and share on social
Friends, there are many areas in which I need encouragement, but worrying is not one of them. I worry the way Renee Fleming sings high Cs: Effortlessly. Loudly. At length. Martha Beck areaeffortlesslyencouragement Change image and share on social