The widely held belief that the heterosexual nuclear family is best for children has long been used as a smoke screen for homophobia and as a talking point to quash marriage-equality efforts. Jessica Valenti beliefchildeffort Change image and share on social
My parents have a wonderful marriage, but they have been together since my mother was 12, married when they were just teenagers and are barely ever separated. They even work together. As a result, I have always thought of marriage as involving the loss of a certain amount of autonomy. Jessica Valenti amountautonomybarely share on social
Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control. Jessica Valenti actorcharactercontrol share on social
Feminism isn't simply about being a woman in a position of power. It's battling systemic inequities; it's a social justice movement that believes sexism, racism and classism exist and interconnect, and that they should be consistently challenged. Jessica Valenti battlebelievechallenge share on social
I kind of love that there's not really a feminist canon; or maybe there is, but it's being changed, that it's a constantly moving canon in the feminist blogosphere. I love that. Jessica Valenti blogospherecanonchange Change image and share on social
It's become impossible to enjoy most quality television shows because the hurt or endangered women device is so frequently used. Jessica Valenti deviceendangerenjoy Change image and share on social
In 2008, I was one of the young feminist whippersnappers who voted for Barack Obama over Hillary Clinton in the Democratic primaries - or as many of my older counterparts called me at the time, a traitor. Jessica Valenti barackcallclinton share on social
Once you get married, women are still implicitly expected to do the majority of the housework and take care of any future children. Jessica Valenti carechildexpect Change image and share on social
People ask me a lot, 'Well, can you be pro-life and be feminist? Can you be conservative and be feminist?' And I think that, yeah, maybe personally you can be those things. But I think if you're advocating for legislation, or if you're fighting to limit other women's rights, then you can't really call yourself a feminist. Jessica Valenti advocatecallconservative share on social
My problem with the wedding industry started when I studied in college and liked to have the television on in the background, and 'A Wedding Story' on TLC always came on, and I'd get irritated that the story of two people making a lifelong commitment to each other could be encapsulated in a half-hour show about the party they throw. Jessica Valenti backgroundcollegecommitment share on social