I was in love with the idea of love, so I created elaborate fictions for my relationships - fictions that allowed me to believe that what any given paramour and I shared looked a lot like love. Roxane Gay allowcreateelaborate Change image and share on social
It sometimes feels like the workplace is immune from social upheaval. We go to work and do the best we can, and at the end of the day, we return to our lives. We don't abandon who we are, however, when we begin and end our workday. Who we are shapes how we are perceived in the workplace and, in turn, how we perform in the workplace. Roxane Gay abandonbeginday share on social
Social media is something of a double-edged sword. At its best, social media offers unprecedented opportunities for marginalized people to speak and bring much needed attention to the issues they face. At its worst, social media also offers 'everyone' an unprecedented opportunity to share in collective outrage without reflection. Roxane Gay attentionbadbring share on social
For celebrities, privacy is utterly nonexistent. You are asked intrusive questions about your personal life. You can be photographed at any moment. Roxane Gay askcelebrityintrusive Change image and share on social
I'm sick of hearing, thinking and talking about Woody Allen. Nonetheless, the allegations against him continue to capture our national attention because so much of the story is strange and sordid. Roxane Gay allegationallenattention Change image and share on social
I love, but I am not entirely sure how to be loved: how to be seen and known for the utterly flawed woman I am. It demands surrender. It demands acknowledging that I am not perfect, but perhaps I deserve affection anyway. Roxane Gay acknowledgeaffectiondemand share on social
A lot of ink is given over to mythologizing female friendships as curious, fragile relationships that are always intensely fraught. Stop reading writing that encourages this mythology. Roxane Gay curiousencouragefemale Change image and share on social
I have known beaches, but I have no particular fondness for them. I don't like sand in my crevices. I don't like sand at all. I don't enjoy all that sunshine and heat without the benefit of climate control. Roxane Gay beachbenefitclimate share on social
I reject the idea that when young women make choices with which we disagree, they are acting without autonomy. Roxane Gay actautonomychoice Change image and share on social
I think it was really entering my 30s that I began to embrace feminism and call myself a feminist. Roxane Gay 30sbegincall Change image and share on social