As long as we depend on other women for self-esteem, using them as bad examples or fantasy versions - special, powerful - of ourselves, they remain stuck in a narcissistic version of themselves, too. Koren Zailckas baddependesteem Change image and share on social
In my early to mid-20s, a fear of confrontation made it difficult for me to end relationships in a mature or even quasi-sane way. Instead, I would hang on resentfully, praying that my doomed beau would end things first and spare me the displeasure. To add hindrance to hang-up, the men I chose were usually just as stoic as I was. Koren Zailckas 20saddbeau share on social
It's no wonder the narcissistic mother will always have a place in literature: she's a freak of nature. Koren Zailckas freakliteraturemother Change image and share on social
Reading Poe was like a near-death experience, the kind that makes you feel fragile and free in its wake. I felt almost as though I'd scared myself alive. Koren Zailckas alivedeathexperience Change image and share on social
My parents always swore that in my childhood they had to let me win at board games. If, by the lucky stroke of the plastic wheel, my father would accidentally beat me at Candy Land, I would fly into fits of bawling that I'm told would last for hours. If I couldn't triumph, I didn't want to play. Koren Zailckas accidentallybawlbeat share on social
My short stature may have something to do with my tendency to shout when enraged. How else is anyone going to hear me way down here? Koren Zailckas enragehearshort Change image and share on social
I have been a ballerina, a cheerleader and a sorority girl. I was the girliest girl alive. Koren Zailckas aliveballerinacheerleader Change image and share on social
If mothers are our first teachers, then having a narcissistic one teaches us that human closeness is terrifying, and the world is a heartless, inconsistent place. Koren Zailckas closenessheartlesshuman Change image and share on social
When you are writing a memoir, you have the advantage of knowing how it all ends. It's just taking your life apart and putting it together again. Koren Zailckas advantageendknow Change image and share on social
I don't know where the idea originated that memoir writing is cathartic. For me, it's always felt like playing my own neurosurgeon, sans anesthesia. As a memoirist, you have to crack your head open and examine every uncomfortable thing in there. Koren Zailckas anesthesiacatharticcrack share on social