When I wrote my stories in elementary school, I signed them all 'Karen E. Bender' with the squiggly 'E.' I wanted, from an early age, to be a writer, and that name - that E - was a way of pretending I knew how to do it. Karen Bender agebenderearly share on social
Giving shape to a painful experience is powerful because it helps us to see, first, how we got through it; second, how we can share it. The experience doesn't stay trapped within us, unspoken, curdling - instead, the art of arranging and transforming it reduces the burden. It no longer belongs to only you. Karen Bender arrangeartbelong share on social
My second novel began after my family moved from New York City to North Carolina, and I watched my son walk into kindergarten at a school in which he was the only Jewish child out of 600 students - and this in the middle of the Bible Belt. Karen Bender beginbeltbible share on social
At one point, I had a story accepted at the 'New Yorker,' which sent off weird bells in people when I told them - 'Oh,' they thought, 'now you are a writer' - where I really had been for the last 30-odd years. Karen Bender acceptbellodd share on social
It's great being married to a writer. You live with someone who can read your work and help you. Karen Bender greatlivemarry Change image and share on social
I was in graduate school. I had a birth control accident and went to get the morning after pill. Karen Bender accidentbirthcontrol Change image and share on social
Make pumpkin bread as the default gift for everyone. It is cheap, it is beloved, it is carbs. Karen Bender belovedbreadcarb Change image and share on social
Fall into your sentences; enjoy writing them. Love the world you are creating. Karen Bender createenjoyfall Change image and share on social
When I was 19 and dropped out of college for several months, I lived for some time with my grandmother. Karen Bender collegedropgrandmother Change image and share on social
Don't monitor your online savings account in real time. Karen Bender accountmonitoronline Change image and share on social