I really work on paying attention to the clues my self is giving myself. For instance, I think of myself in the third person. That allows me to manage myself better. Gretchen Rubin attentioncluegive Change image and share on social
Remember that although the distinction can be difficult to draw, loneliness and solitude are different. Gretchen Rubin difficultdistinctiondraw Change image and share on social
We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; we need to be able to get support, and just as important for happiness, to give support. We need many kinds of relationships; for one thing, we need friends. Gretchen Rubin belongbondconfide share on social
Embrace good smells. No cost, no calories, no energy, no time - a quick hit of pleasure. Gretchen Rubin caloriecostembrace Change image and share on social
I love finding - or inventing - ways to categorize people. Gretchen Rubin categorizefindinvent Change image and share on social
As goofy as it sounds, I try to sing in the morning. It's hard both to sing and to maintain a grouchy mood, and it sets a happy tone for everyone - particularly in my case, because I'm tone deaf, and my audience finds my singing a source of great hilarity. Gretchen Rubin audiencecasedeaf share on social
One of the best ways to make yourself happy in the present is to recall happy times from the past. Photos are a great memory-prompt, and because we tend to take photos of happy occasions, they weight our memories to the good. Gretchen Rubin goodgreathappy share on social
Skillful conversationalists can explore disagreements and make points in ways that feel constructive and positive rather than combative or corrective. Gretchen Rubin combativeconstructiveconversationalist Change image and share on social
Sometimes, counter-intuitively, it's easier to make a major change than a minor change. When a habit is changing very gradually, we may lose interest, give way under stress, or dismiss the change as insignificant. There's an excitement and an energy that comes from a big transformation, and that helps to create a habit. Gretchen Rubin bigchangecounter share on social
I've always loved 'Before and After' stories, in books, magazines, and TV shows. Whenever I read those words, I'm hooked. The thought of a transformation - any kind of transformation - thrills me. And that's the promise of habits. Gretchen Rubin bookhabithave share on social