Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try - by punishing the troublesome - to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously. Barbara Deming conspicuouslydeterdeterrence share on social
The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions. Barbara Deming attentioncarefulcommonality share on social
Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences. Barbara Deming actionconscienceconsult Change image and share on social
Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people's minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide. Barbara Deming changecoincideenemy Change image and share on social
Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one's fears. Barbara Deming actioncopefear Change image and share on social
People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations. Barbara Deming attackpeoplerationalization Change image and share on social
Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us. Barbara Deming actactionbehalf Change image and share on social
After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible. Barbara Deming cutharmpeople share on social
There should be no censorship of mail. Barbara Deming censorshipmail Change image and share on social
The point is to change one's life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one; the point is so to act that one can master them now. Barbara Deming actchangedestroy Change image and share on social
