Oddly enough, I'm not a particularly judgmental person. I just don't have a lot of filtering when I'm in 'tiger mother' mode. I say what comes into my head. Amy Chua filterheadjudgmental Change image and share on social
I do not think there was anything abusive in my house. Yet, I stand by a lot of my critiques of Western parenting. I think there's a lot of questions about how you instill true self-esteem. Amy Chua abusivecritiqueesteem Change image and share on social
What the Chinese parent is conveying to the child is not that 'you've got to get A's or else I won't like you.' On the contrary, it's, 'I believe in you so much, I know that you can be excellent.' Amy Chua childchinesecontrary Change image and share on social
Questioning authority is, I think, a great thing to instill in children. I just didn't have enough of that when I was little. Amy Chua authoritychildgreat Change image and share on social
You know, I think it's so ironic that we're calling hard work, striving for excellence, don't blame others, you know, don't give up, that we're calling these, quote, 'Chinese values,' 'cause I always thought of them as American values. Amy Chua americanblamecall share on social
I once won a second prize in a history concert. My parents came to the ceremony. Somebody else had won the prize for best all-around student. Afterwards my father said to me, 'Never, ever disgrace me like that again.' When I tell my Western friends, they are aghast. But I adore my father. It didn't knock my self-esteem at all. Amy Chua adoreaghastceremony share on social
I do think that maybe, even subconsciously, a lot of parents in the West are wondering, have we gone too far in the direction of coddling and protecting - you know, you see kids, sometimes that seem very rude and disrespectful. And the more important thing is they don't seem that happy. Amy Chua coddledirectiondisrespectful share on social
Some parents let their kids sleep at other people's houses, where they drink alcohol, watch TV for hours and God knows what else. But if you say you have to get all A's and practice the violin for two hours, then they consider that abusive. That upsets me. Amy Chua abusivealcoholdrink share on social
I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition. Amy Chua competitionhateintense Change image and share on social
I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that. Amy Chua constantlydaughterharsh Change image and share on social