I've learned a lot since I was a new mother. My approach to struggle and shame now is to talk to yourself like you'd talk to someone you love and reach out to tell your story. Brene Brown approachhavelearn Change image and share on social
We're hardwired for connection. There's no arguing with the bioscience. But we can want it so badly we're trying to hot-wire it. Brene Brown arguebadlybioscience Change image and share on social
One of the things I did when I discovered this huge importance of being vulnerable is very happily moved away from the shame research, because that's such a downer, and people hate that topic. It's not that vulnerability is the upside, but it's better than shame, I guess. Brene Brown discoverdownerguess share on social
The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability. Brene Brown askfraughtinclination Change image and share on social
I think if you follow anyone home, whether they live in Houston or London, and you sit at their dinner table and talk to them about their mother who has cancer or their child who is struggling in school, and their fears about watching their lives go by, I think we're all the same. Brene Brown cancerchilddinner share on social
Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance. Brene Brown acceptanceapprovalearn Change image and share on social
Normally, when someone we love is turning away from a struggle, we self-protect by also turning away. That's definitely my first response. I think change is more likely to happen if both partners have common language and a shared lens to see problems. Brene Brown changecommonhappen share on social
I was raised in a family where vulnerability was barely tolerated: no training wheels on our bicycles, no goggles in the pool, just get it done. And so I grew up not only with discomfort about my own vulnerability, I didn't care for it in other people either. Brene Brown barelybicyclecare share on social
One thing that I tell people all the time is, 'I'm not going to answer a call from you after nine o'clock at night or before nine o'clock in the morning unless it's an emergency.' Brene Brown answercallclock Change image and share on social
My husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame resilience than you do. Brene Brown childhusbandparenting Change image and share on social
