'Crazy-busy' is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up with us. Brene Brown armorbusycatch share on social
One of the things I did when I discovered this huge importance of being vulnerable is very happily moved away from the shame research, because that's such a downer, and people hate that topic. It's not that vulnerability is the upside, but it's better than shame, I guess. Brene Brown discoverdownerguess share on social
The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability. Brene Brown askfraughtinclination Change image and share on social
Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children. Brene Brown childdoubtironically Change image and share on social
Live-tweeting your bikini wax is not vulnerability. Nor is posting a blow-by-blow of your divorce . That's an attempt to hot-wire connection. But you can't cheat real connection. It's built up slowly. It's about trust and time. Brene Brown attemptbikiniblow share on social
To me, constructive criticism is when people take ownership of their ideas. That's why I don't listen to anything that's anonymous. But it's hard; when there's something hurtful out there, I still want to read it over and over and memorize it and explain my point of view to the person. Brene Brown anonymousconstructivecriticism share on social
Normally, when someone we love is turning away from a struggle, we self-protect by also turning away. That's definitely my first response. I think change is more likely to happen if both partners have common language and a shared lens to see problems. Brene Brown changecommonhappen share on social
We're hardwired for connection. There's no arguing with the bioscience. But we can want it so badly we're trying to hot-wire it. Brene Brown arguebadlybioscience Change image and share on social
I was raised in a family where vulnerability was barely tolerated: no training wheels on our bicycles, no goggles in the pool, just get it done. And so I grew up not only with discomfort about my own vulnerability, I didn't care for it in other people either. Brene Brown barelybicyclecare share on social
When the people we love stop paying attention, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in. Brene Brown attentionbeginhurt Change image and share on social
