For most of my life, I believed that my father had broken many of my bones. They were emotional and psychological bones; things no one could see, things that caused me to limp through life clutching for and holding on to people and situations that often rendered me immobile. Iyanla Vanzant believebonebreak share on social
I'm the person that I always was, but in terms of how I approach my living, I'm not the same person at all. At all. I've buried a child, I've ended a marriage, and the grandson that I was raising is now grown. My family has totally shifted. Iyanla Vanzant approachburychild share on social
If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren't really ready to share yourself. Iyanla Vanzant bigcellulitefear Change image and share on social
I'm moving into that eldership age, you know? I'm at the 'wise woman' age where it's not about learning, but utilizing the information that I have in a way that serves other people. That's a high calling and it's a great responsibility. Iyanla Vanzant agecalleldership share on social
Pain is pain, hurt is hurt, fear is fear, anger is anger, and it has no color. Iyanla Vanzant angercolorfear Change image and share on social
I have a daily message, 'Stimumail,' which I use to stimulate the mind and heart. I have the opportunity to touch over 60,000 people I have never met. I also use Twitter and Facebook. Iyanla Vanzant 000dailyfacebook Change image and share on social
We really don't know how to love each other because we haven't really learned to love ourselves. In many instances, not all, it's not malicious. We've just been conditioned to such bad behavior. Iyanla Vanzant badbehaviorcondition Change image and share on social
Why can't women get along? Because we're afraid. We're afraid to be vulnerable. We're afraid to be soft. We're afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we're afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious. Iyanla Vanzant afraidaggressivecontrol share on social
My father never kissed me, hugged me or told me that he loved me. As my only living parent, he became the filter through which I saw myself, the possibilities for my life, the world and all men. He was a conflicted and dark filter. Iyanla Vanzant conflictdarkfather share on social
I think as men begin to see things that address them, they will feel that they can relate. They can't relate to 'Basketball Wives,' 'Housewives of Atlanta.' I am not judging or criticizing those shows at all; what I am saying is the perspective is not necessarily the male perspective. 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is inclusive of everyone. Iyanla Vanzant addressatlantabasketball share on social